How to Not Hold Yourself Back

It’s a sad fact that sometimes we are the ones who hold ourselves back in life! It is often incredibly difficult, verging on impossible, to let go of the fears that we have in order to manifest the life that we want for ourselves.

Needing additional guidance from someone, or requiring that extra little push of encouragement in order to do something, is completely normal. However, this kind of validation isn’t always available from those around us. When this is the case, and also regardless of whether it is or not, it’s possible and powerful to become your own motivation!

We often rob ourselves of what could be defining moments in our lives because of a simple fear of the unknown, or a lack of motivation to truly explore the possibilities that are opening up to us. When this happens, regret can quickly set in, and this is a much longer lasting feeling than any negative feelings that may occur as a result of a perceived failure.

So how can you champion yourself and always have a well of personal inspiration to drink from?

First it’s important to remember that any self-doubt that you are experiencing is likely not entirely of your own creation. The lessons that are an inevitable part of life can often instil an attitude of limiting beliefs about the self. That is, of believing that your capabilities have limits, and that it is silly to attempt to break through these barriers. When you spend some time getting to the root of this self-doubt, then you can begin to understand it as an emotion that has no right in your life or in your mind – and work to expel it for good!

Secondly, you must strive to reject the concept of self-sabotage. Nobody loses out when you let fear hold you back – except yourself! Treating yourself with consistent love, respect and kindness is a great way to reiterate to yourself that you want to succeed in all that you do, and that self-sabotage is certainly not something that you want to engage in.

Thirdly, you must acknowledge that there is much to be gained by making brave choices and taking control of your own life. Holding yourself back, whether intentionally or not, will inevitably allow larger problems to develop in your life, and you could quickly grow resentful of yourself – which is a complicated emotional place to be in!

Let go of your fear, embrace all that is good about your life and be your own champion!

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Adjust Your Attitude to Find Happiness

When it comes to seeking happiness it is important not to negate any of your emotional responses. Often we tell ourselves that feeling sad is not an acceptable state of mind because so many people have it worse. However, in doing so we are discounting our natural response to our current situation. It is important to remember that we have to sometimes be sad if we are to be happy in other moments! Understanding your emotions and allowing yourself to feel them is essential to working past any negative ones that occur and embracing the positive ones that surface.

Many people try to find happiness in making others happy. Although this is of course a great thing to do, it can often be to distract the person in question from dealing with their own emotions. If you are one of these people that spends a great deal of time worrying about everyone else, then you may start to find that you are missing out on your own joy. Although there are of course things you can do to increase the wellbeing of others, at the end of the day their happiness is their own making. You simply cannot force someone else to be happy and you cannot truly push them to reach this state of mind before they are ready. Similarly, you are responsible for your own happiness, even though you may get help from your loved ones along the way.

If you believe that there are currently obstacles to you reaching your happiest self, then ask yourself the following questions and try to determine if your attitude could use an adjustment!

First of all, are there things in your life that are causing you pain that you could work to let go of? Are there negative thought patterns that drive you to distraction when really you could embrace positivity and work to avoid them altogether? Are there people that you allow to influence your attitude in a detrimental way?

Instead of concentrating on the negative aspects of your life, make a list of all of the things that you are doing well and remind yourself of these things each and every day. By taking pride in the small moments of success that you achieve, you create a much bigger feeling of success that can boost your sense of happiness and general wellbeing.

Make sure you own each and every decision and choice that guides your life so that you never lose that feeling of being in control. Finally, and perhaps most importantly, remember to be kind to yourself. Take the time to care for yourself and not to let others get you down! Check in on your attitude to life and happiness regularly to ensure you remain on a positive and healthy track!