How to Rebuild Your Confidence

There are many reasons why your confidence and your self-esteem may have been negatively affected. It may have been the result of several small incidents, or perhaps even one ongoing situation. Regardless of the reason for your low confidence, the effects that it can have on your life can be difficult to overcome.

When you don’t believe in yourself or in your abilities, it can be tricky to motivate and encourage yourself to do the things that you truly want to do. It can seem impossible to actually give yourself the push you need to work towards your goals and ambitions.

So, how can you overcome this issue with your confidence and self esteem in order to lead a more fulfilling and ambitious life?

Taking care of your own needs is the first step, and in doing this you will be moving self-care to the top of your list of priorities! Self-care can take many forms, and essentially means you are recognising your own needs and taking productive and active steps to meet these needs.

I would encourage you to make a physical list of the things that make you happy, such as exercise, socialising, travelling, listening to music etc, and then ask yourself how often you actually do these things. I would then ask you to commit to finding the time to do these things often, and you can then notice how your perception of yourself changes and your confidence grows.

Next, try to establish what your negative views of yourself are – by this I mean the reasons for your low confidence levels. Do you perhaps think that you are not doing great at your job? Or, do you believe you aren’t taking care of your family well enough? Perhaps you don’t like the way that you look and would like to change your appearance in some way?

All of these negative views about yourself will have their roots in fear – a fear of change, a fear of failure, a fear of being judged. Whatever your fears are, it is important to recognise that these fears come from within you, and therefore you have the power to silence these thoughts and to kick them out of your mind!

Combatting negativity with positivity is key to a happy life, full of confidence. And, we all have the potential to enhance the positivity within us so that less and less space exists to allow the negativity in!

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How to Not Hold Yourself Back

It’s a sad fact that sometimes we are the ones who hold ourselves back in life! It is often incredibly difficult, verging on impossible, to let go of the fears that we have in order to manifest the life that we want for ourselves.

Needing additional guidance from someone, or requiring that extra little push of encouragement in order to do something, is completely normal. However, this kind of validation isn’t always available from those around us. When this is the case, and also regardless of whether it is or not, it’s possible and powerful to become your own motivation!

We often rob ourselves of what could be defining moments in our lives because of a simple fear of the unknown, or a lack of motivation to truly explore the possibilities that are opening up to us. When this happens, regret can quickly set in, and this is a much longer lasting feeling than any negative feelings that may occur as a result of a perceived failure.

So how can you champion yourself and always have a well of personal inspiration to drink from?

First it’s important to remember that any self-doubt that you are experiencing is likely not entirely of your own creation. The lessons that are an inevitable part of life can often instil an attitude of limiting beliefs about the self. That is, of believing that your capabilities have limits, and that it is silly to attempt to break through these barriers. When you spend some time getting to the root of this self-doubt, then you can begin to understand it as an emotion that has no right in your life or in your mind – and work to expel it for good!

Secondly, you must strive to reject the concept of self-sabotage. Nobody loses out when you let fear hold you back – except yourself! Treating yourself with consistent love, respect and kindness is a great way to reiterate to yourself that you want to succeed in all that you do, and that self-sabotage is certainly not something that you want to engage in.

Thirdly, you must acknowledge that there is much to be gained by making brave choices and taking control of your own life. Holding yourself back, whether intentionally or not, will inevitably allow larger problems to develop in your life, and you could quickly grow resentful of yourself – which is a complicated emotional place to be in!

Let go of your fear, embrace all that is good about your life and be your own champion!

If you have seen my new wellness for women membership site – Truly Julie – then you will know that I am on a mission to inspire and motivate women to become healthier and happier – and I would love it if you would join me on this journey as we keep moving through 2017!

Take the Time to Learn to Love Yourself

Learning to live in harmony with other people can sometimes be a challenging concept. The ability to compromise and be patient will get you far when it comes to this, but what is required of us when we consider how to be in harmony with ourselves? Learning to love and accept the person you are, flaws and all, will enable you to be at peace with yourself. This will quickly lead to good things in other areas of your life as you’ll radiate confidence and better understand the things you want.

The concept of learning to love yourself is often referred to as bonding with yourself and it is an incredibly powerful tool for self-healing. Before the process of learning to love yourself can begin it is important that you are willing to take responsibility for all of your actions and feelings. If you don’t know why you are doing something, or why you are feeling something, then how can you possibly aim to understand it? When you have an emotion, this is your inner-self making you aware of your genuine response to a situation. It is important to pay attention to these emotions and not to let other people make you feel they are less valid.

The next stage of this process is to approach each day with the willingness to learn new things about yourself and the world around you. Knowledge is infinite and being open to developing your beliefs and opinions is essential to self-progression. Allow and encourage others to challenge you and in turn you will inspire them to do the same for themselves. It’s important to remember that this doesn’t mean you have to be wrong or right about everything – it’s about being open to new possibilities.

You’ll find that once you’ve opened yourself up in the ways previously mentioned, that you’ll feel better equipped to accept the things that you previously thought of as flaws. If there are things that you want to change about yourself, or your life, then it is fully within your power to do so. So often we allow ourselves to become unhappy in circumstances that we have created ourselves. The key is to find practical and fulfilling solutions to these problems instead of internalising them as unhappy emotions. Take positive actions instead of allowing these problems to persist. With these positive actions will come self-affirmation and a stronger belief in your own capabilities.

The final stage of learning to love yourself is simply to always take the time to evaluate why you have done something and how you feel about it. If you find that you don’t feel good about something, or you don’t think it was a positive action, then find ways to remedy it!