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There are countless reasons why negativity may feature regularly in your life. Perhaps you have some not-so positive relationships that you haven’t let go of yet, or perhaps you are still dealing with incidents in your past that have affected you in an ongoing way.
A lot of the negativity that we experience as people unfortunately largely comes from other people! Passing judgement is something we are all guilty of to some degree, but it is important to remember that you don’t always have to absorb this judgement when you are on the receiving end of it.
Making an extra effort be compassionate and kind in all that you do is a great way to tackle negativity. This is an idea that you should particularly embrace if you are experiencing negativity in a direct way, such as someone challenging you in an unnecessarily unpleasant manner. When you give nothing but positivity back to these people then you are much more likely to be able to disarm this negativity and resolve the situation.
It is an unfortunate fact that people who experience negativity from others often go on to spread this negativity around. Those who seek to cause emotional harm to others, or who do so unconsciously, will most likely have received this kind of treatment from one or more other people. This is why choosing not to engage in this behaviour and opting for positivity instead is a great idea. Doing so breaks the cycle of negativity that is being spread from one person to the next, and encourages love and happiness instead.
Whether the negativity in your life stems from you or come from others, the most important thing is to remember that you can choose to overcome it. You are in charge of your own happiness, and you must make the choice to create the life that you want for yourself.
Every time you find yourself in a situation that makes you unhappy in some way, then ask yourself how you would advise your best friend to deal with this situation. Would you encourage them to walk away? To try to confront the issue head on? Perhaps you would advise yourself to take some time to process your feelings properly before attempting to address the problem.
When it comes to self-love and self-care, you have to be your own best friend. And, treating yourself as such is a simple but effective way to overcome negativity!
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In our modern day world you would be forgiven for thinking that it is impossible to be truly happy if you don’t have a continuos source of pleasure in your life. It has become a common misconception that true happiness can only be derived from pleasure, whereas in reality the two do not always have to be connected. In order to understand why this is true, it is helpful to look back on ancient perspectives of happiness and how people through the ages have attempted to interpret its meaning.
The idea that the mind is completely responsible for happiness is one that has been explored extensively. The essence of this concept is that perception is everything and by finding ways to believe that happiness surrounds you will in turn breed feelings of persistent happiness. In order to achieve this it is essential to find ways to have a positive response to every situation and experience that you encounter. This can of course be a difficult rule to live by as the majority of us can never have complete control over all of our emotions! So, for those of us who can’t, I’ve put together the following list of simple concepts that can help us to strive towards a place of peace positivity.
First of all, I encourage you to accept the fact that happiness is not something that will appear overnight. It is a journey that we take which requires our attention and effort. Don’t see happiness as something that you are entitled to, but rather something which you earn through your behaviour and treatment of others. As you spread happiness, it will come back to you. Be grateful for the happiness that others extend to you and show appreciation for those who do so.
Secondly, work to adjust your perceptions of the things that happen in your life. Allowing yourself to have your mood dragged down by negative events beyond your control plays straight into the hands of sadness. Try to see light in every dark situation and understand that with every setback you are growing as a person. Your character is dependant on the way you conduct yourself in the world and refusing to let negativity in will go a long way to aiding you on your journey to happiness.
Finally, spend some time contemplating the things that are important to you and the things that you believe to be true in terms of a basic belief system. Do you want to eradicate cruelty from all aspects of your life? Do you want to be moral and virtuous in all of your interactions? Do you want to be kind and thoughtful to everyone you encounter? Once you know how you want to live, it will be much easier to implement this lifestyle. It isn’t until you truly do so that you will be able to reap the happiness that doing so brings!
Learning to live in harmony with other people can sometimes be a challenging concept. The ability to compromise and be patient will get you far when it comes to this, but what is required of us when we consider how to be in harmony with ourselves? Learning to love and accept the person you are, flaws and all, will enable you to be at peace with yourself. This will quickly lead to good things in other areas of your life as you’ll radiate confidence and better understand the things you want.
The concept of learning to love yourself is often referred to as bonding with yourself and it is an incredibly powerful tool for self-healing. Before the process of learning to love yourself can begin it is important that you are willing to take responsibility for all of your actions and feelings. If you don’t know why you are doing something, or why you are feeling something, then how can you possibly aim to understand it? When you have an emotion, this is your inner-self making you aware of your genuine response to a situation. It is important to pay attention to these emotions and not to let other people make you feel they are less valid.
The next stage of this process is to approach each day with the willingness to learn new things about yourself and the world around you. Knowledge is infinite and being open to developing your beliefs and opinions is essential to self-progression. Allow and encourage others to challenge you and in turn you will inspire them to do the same for themselves. It’s important to remember that this doesn’t mean you have to be wrong or right about everything – it’s about being open to new possibilities.
You’ll find that once you’ve opened yourself up in the ways previously mentioned, that you’ll feel better equipped to accept the things that you previously thought of as flaws. If there are things that you want to change about yourself, or your life, then it is fully within your power to do so. So often we allow ourselves to become unhappy in circumstances that we have created ourselves. The key is to find practical and fulfilling solutions to these problems instead of internalising them as unhappy emotions. Take positive actions instead of allowing these problems to persist. With these positive actions will come self-affirmation and a stronger belief in your own capabilities.
The final stage of learning to love yourself is simply to always take the time to evaluate why you have done something and how you feel about it. If you find that you don’t feel good about something, or you don’t think it was a positive action, then find ways to remedy it!