How to Not Hold Yourself Back

It’s a sad fact that sometimes we are the ones who hold ourselves back in life! It is often incredibly difficult, verging on impossible, to let go of the fears that we have in order to manifest the life that we want for ourselves.

Needing additional guidance from someone, or requiring that extra little push of encouragement in order to do something, is completely normal. However, this kind of validation isn’t always available from those around us. When this is the case, and also regardless of whether it is or not, it’s possible and powerful to become your own motivation!

We often rob ourselves of what could be defining moments in our lives because of a simple fear of the unknown, or a lack of motivation to truly explore the possibilities that are opening up to us. When this happens, regret can quickly set in, and this is a much longer lasting feeling than any negative feelings that may occur as a result of a perceived failure.

So how can you champion yourself and always have a well of personal inspiration to drink from?

First it’s important to remember that any self-doubt that you are experiencing is likely not entirely of your own creation. The lessons that are an inevitable part of life can often instil an attitude of limiting beliefs about the self. That is, of believing that your capabilities have limits, and that it is silly to attempt to break through these barriers. When you spend some time getting to the root of this self-doubt, then you can begin to understand it as an emotion that has no right in your life or in your mind – and work to expel it for good!

Secondly, you must strive to reject the concept of self-sabotage. Nobody loses out when you let fear hold you back – except yourself! Treating yourself with consistent love, respect and kindness is a great way to reiterate to yourself that you want to succeed in all that you do, and that self-sabotage is certainly not something that you want to engage in.

Thirdly, you must acknowledge that there is much to be gained by making brave choices and taking control of your own life. Holding yourself back, whether intentionally or not, will inevitably allow larger problems to develop in your life, and you could quickly grow resentful of yourself – which is a complicated emotional place to be in!

Let go of your fear, embrace all that is good about your life and be your own champion!

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Coming to Terms with Your Anger

Anger is generally an uninvited and unappreciated emotion that can strike at any time in response to a negative experience. Although it can be difficult to prevent anger entirely, it is possible to address this emotion in order to help alleviate the effect it has on your mind.

Understanding your anger is the first step to being able to deal with it when it does occur, and in order to do so it is helpful to be aware of why certain situations prompt you to become angry.

Disagreements, jealously and rejection are common causes of anger. When we encounter any of these things our feelings can become hurt and this can lead to resentment, or even rage. When you allow these emotions to settle and spread throughout your mind you will be allowing your happiness to be compromised. Positive affirmations are a great tool to call upon in these situations in order to rapidly bring some positivity back to the forefront of your thinking.

The following are super helpful positive affirmations, not only for coming to terms with your anger, but also for helping to process and alleviate it!

“I acknowledge these feelings of anger and I am in control of releasing them from my life”

“I am a positive person who can confront my problems constructively and with reason”

“I am calm, I am at peace and I am totally in control of my emotions and my life”

If you find that jealousy often leads to feelings of anger, then it is important to explore these feelings. They can often be connected to loss or abandonment from your childhood.

Those who are quick to react to situations with anger will often find that this stems from self-esteem issues. This is something that can be addressed by taking the time to meditate on these feelings, and finding positive and productive ways to love yourself.

When you do feel angry it is very important to express this anger in some way! Many people try to avoid conflict and this is often because we are told as children that we should not express this emotion. However, keeping these feelings bottled up inside is not good for your physical or mental health, and it is important to have a productive outlet.

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How to Persist with Positivity

As we come towards the end of January, it can be easy to place less importance on the resolutions and goals that you felt were super important at the beginning of the year.

You may already have a solid idea of what it is you want to achieve this year. However, you may also not yet be so aware of where 2017 will take you. Whichever of these situations sounds more true to your own experience, the key to moving forwards is to enable your own positivity.

Positive thinking is a concept that can bring an abundance of happiness into your life, and isn’t something that you should ignore! Often you may feel as though your happiness comes to you naturally, and on other occasions it can be harder to find the source of these positive feelings. This is why knowing how to create a positive mindset for yourself in any situation is beneficial for every aspect of your life.

Meditation

Making time for conscious positivity every day is one of the best ways to ensure that it doesn’t leave your life. For example, spend a short period of time practicing meditation and focusing on all of the great things in your life that you are grateful for. These can be small things, or brief interactions with people that left you feeling good. They can also be larger ideas and tangible things that you are proud of.

Positive Affirmations

Repeating positive affirmations to yourself during the day is also a great way to encourage a continuos positive mindset. Using positive affirmations can seriously help to re-route negative thought patterns and help you to avoid dwelling on past problems, thereby allowing positivity to persist.

Self-Care

Self-care can take many forms. It is an amazing way to keep a smile on your face and peace in your mind. Small acts of self-care may involve making an effort every morning to have a routine that readies you for the day, taking time to be by yourself in nature, or having periods away from technology and the general noise of modern day life.

Incorporating all of the aforementioned concepts into your life will help you to create the happiness you want for yourself. There is no limit to how this positivity can grow and impact you and those around you!

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Learning From Last Year

Learning from past mistakes is something that does not come easily to everyone. Falling into patterns of negative choices can be second nature to many, and it can take a great effort to break this routine of cyclic behaviour. 

If you feel like 2016 was not a good year for you in terms of the choices that you made and the decisions that you regret, then 2017 can be the perfect opportunity to turn this negativity into something productive. Instead of dwelling on the consequences of these choices, see them as lessons learnt and a basis for self-discovery moving forwards. 

Mistakes are an inevitable part of the human experience, and something that absolutely everyone makes. Sometimes it may seem that you make more poor choices than those around you, however, you have to remember that not everyone is open and honest about the things in their life that they regret.

There is also much to be learnt from the good things that happened to you in 2016. Maybe you discovered a new hobby, made new friends or embarked upon a new career. When you invite something new into your life it helps you to understand more about yourself. It might show you that you have a skill or a talent that you were previously unaware of, or that you are seeking certain things in life.

The people that we choose to spend our time with will help to mould us and guide us through our own lives. This is why it is important that you surround yourself with positive, encouraging people who will nurture you emotionally. Making new friends, or starting new romantic relationships, can teach us a great deal about the love and kindness that we deserve – as well as about the abundance of our own emotional energy that we are willing to share and invest in others. Try to process any negative interactions you had with people last year and to understand the reasons for them. You can then release these experiences from your mind and have no restrictions as to how open you are to new connections this year.

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Simple Steps to Supporting Happiness

I regularly talk on my blog about finding ways to work towards happiness and to sustain it once you have arrived at this beautiful destination. As well as meditation, exercise and all of the other wonderful techniques that I recommend, there are also much simpler things that you can do to promote your own sense of well-being.

The following suggestions are practically effortless concepts that you can make a note to embrace in all aspects of your life! In doing so, not only will you soon see the positivity in those around you, but you will also boost feelings of self-love, self-worth and happiness in yourself.

Reach Out

Knowing when to ask for help is one of the best ways to avoid letting stress take over as you can more easily share your concerns. People often shy away from asking for help as they see it as a sign of weakness in themselves. However, the truth is that we all need help sometimes, be it for small tasks or larger responsibilities. When you go to your friends or family for help you are actually also telling them that you trust them and that you value their input! This helps to firm the bonds of friendship and encourage honest communication. 

Own Your Independence

Being happy without a partner is where some people struggle. However, it is essential to remember that you do not need another person to be complete. If you are unhappy on your own then the presence of another person is only going to mask this unhappiness, not remedy it. For this reason (and more!) it is important to work on your own happiness as an individual before becoming part of a pair.

Seek Out Positivity

Seeing the good in other people can often be difficult, especially if the person in question has wronged you in some way. In some circumstances it can be easy to write certain people off as not having any good in them at all, but this is almost always never true! So, in instances where you are having negative feelings towards someone, make a mental note of their good qualities or fond memories you have of them. This will help you to process the situation with less sadness and hostility, giving you much more of a chance to preserve your own happiness.

These three simple concepts are often overlooked when people are contemplating their own happiness. Making an effort to reach out, own your independence and to seek out positivity in those around you will go a long way to improving your happiness.

If you have seen my new wellness for women membership site – Truly Julie – then you will know that I am on a mission to inspire and motivate women to become healthier and happier – and self-care is a HUGE part of this!

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How to Deal with Stress

Stress is often an unavoidable part of life. It is something that strikes during particularly trying times and helps us to recognise that something is difficult. Although the existence of stress is something that we can’t deny or avoid, there are ways that we can productively deal with stress to ensure that the impact it has on our lives is minimal.

Although stress is most likely something that you would rather live without, it is one of several negative emotions that give contrast to the positivity in our lives. Negative feelings, such as stress and fear, help us to understand how we feel about things, and they often also serve as warnings that we are not entirely comfortable with a situation or happy with ourselves.

Although I often advocate ways to deal with negative emotions and feelings, I would never advise someone to repress them entirely. This is because I believe it is important to embrace this side of yourself.

Stress can manifest in several different ways that can be quite individual to a person. You may find that for you it starts with a mild feeling of anxiety about a certain situation or person. This can then quickly develop into a larger concern that leaves you feeling depressed and reluctant to deal with the situation in question. The additional consequences of this could be that your sleep pattern is affected, your appetite changes and that your mood is prone to inconsistency as irritability sets in.

It can be difficult to manage stress because often it is connected to a potential future concern that you currently have no control over. It can also often just generally be connected to things outside of your control, and therefore there is little that you can do to mitigate this stress. If this is the case then the most effective thing that you can do is check in with yourself in regards to your feelings, and then try as best as you can to restore calm and a more usual frame of mind.

So, when you begin to feel stress take over, ask yourself the following questions:

“What is the absolute worst outcome of this situation?”

“Is there anything I can do in this moment to lessen the severity of the situation?”

“Why has this situation left me feeling like this?”

Once you know the answers to these questions, then you can begin to find a remedy to your predicament and alleviate the stress you are feeling. Often a fear of confrontation will prevent us from addressing our problems head on, leading us to unintentionally exaggerate the seriousness of an issue. When this is the case, simply being upfront and talking things out can bring some relief or allow a solution to present itself.

Some time spent in deep meditation is a great way to truly understand your feelings about your stress, and can also guide you towards resolution.

On my wellness for women website – Truly Julie – I share resources, advice and support that can help you deal with stress head on, as well as helping you to mentally prepare yourself for other sources of negativity!

Living a Life of Mindfulness

If you often feel like you are making your way through life on autopilot then you are certainly not alone! With busy, repetitive schedules it is completely normal to start feeling as though you are just going through the motions. A good way to discover if this is true to you is to try and remember your day at the end of it. How much of your day can you actually recall and how much of it were you simply not present for as you powered through on autopilot?

Living life in this way is the exact opposite of living a life of mindfulness. It is living a life of habit and unconscious actions because you have become bored or exhausted by your routine. When you exist in this way you will find that you spend a lot of time focusing your conscious thoughts on the past or the future, as opposed to engaging in the present moment. This will usually take the form of regretting moments from the past and worrying about the future.

So, how can you break this cyclic way of living to turn auto-pilot off and live a life of mindfulness?

The answer that I am going to offer you may seem incredibly simplistic but I can assure you it works! And that answer is to make a conscious effort to bring your attention into each and every moment. If you are not paying attention to your life as you live it then how can you possibly expect to feel satisfied and fulfilled by life?

You may feel as though you have too many mundane tasks to complete during the day to want to be continuously present, but that is the mistake that causes this mindlessness to seep into other areas of your life. By trying to conduct every moment with awareness and intention you will be much better equipped to be in control of your thoughts and your actions. You will rule your emotions and you will approach each new day with a positive attitude.

As each and every interaction and situation unfolds and develops during your day, make an effort to pay attention to it and deal with it as it is happening. Resist the urge to make judgements and always work to find resolutions. When you do so you will be less likely to have an emotional backlog at the end of each day that could prevent you being present in the following one!

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Understanding and Alleviating Anger

Anger is a natural human emotion and can occur for any number of reasons. Some people are much quicker to get angry than others but there is certainly not a single person on the planet who does not get angry at something!

Disappointment and frustration are two common causes of anger, alongside lack of control over certain ongoing events and isolated incidents. During these situations, your brain will be flooded with adrenaline and cortisol as your body enters fight or flight mode. Excess cortisol in the body can actually be damaging to the immune system as well as having the potential to impair memory function.

Persistent angry episodes are not only unhealthy for your body and mind, but can also cause further reaching problems in other areas of your life – such as your relationships with others.

Although anger is a natural response, understanding your reasons for becoming angry and being able to process this emotion in a positive way, will help you to deal with it in the long term.

As soon as you feel yourself getting angry it is a great idea to distance yourself from this reaction by rating your anger. When you do this you will start to see your anger as being separate from yourself and it therefore becomes much easier to process. When rating anger, I find it helpful to use a scale of one to five, with one being not very angry and five being the angriest you can imagine being. It is unlikely that you will ever rate your anger at a level five when you stop to think about it, and this realisation can be very helpful in alleviating your mood and temper.

I am a big fan of the benefits of breathing and I find it to be especially useful during periods of anger. Immediately making the effort to focus on your breathing when you start to feel anger rising will not only distract you from the situation, but will also work to relax your body. Anger can often cause your body to tense up and breathing is a great way to combat this.

Understanding why you have become angry in the first place can help to prevent the same thing from happening again in the future. Try to consider the reasons why the situation has left you feeling disappointed or frustrated. Consider the ways that you could regain control of the situation in order to gain better control of your emotions. Only then will you be able to work towards better control of your anger in the future and better maintain a positive outlook. 

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Following Your Path of Passion

In a blog post last week I spoke of how it is possible to discover your passion in life by exploring the things that you are curious about. My advice was aimed at those who are perhaps feeling frustrated by the fact they do not yet know what they want to do with their lives.

Today I would like to continue this trail of thought. However, I want to focus more on the things that are true of life passions that only someone who has experienced theirs can tell you.

First of all, as I touched on briefly last week, many people are not born knowing what their passion is. Instead they have to cultivate theirs through self-discovery and much soul-searching. This is a process that can’t be rushed and must be allowed to develop at its own pace. 

Secondly, although society tells us that we must have a calling in life and strive to fulfil it, there is nothing wrong with not currently having a passion. This is just another example of trying to live a life that is moulded by the expectations of someone else. If you are happy with the way that you are living your life, then there is no reason to change just because of the implied expectation that you will do something different.

Thirdly, passion is often a development of first caring about something. Of course all of us care about many things. However, there are often things that stick out as being more important than others. Not ignoring these feelings and allowing them to grow can help you to find out what path in life will truly make you happy.

Your path to finding and living your passion will most likely be an unpredictable one. Your route and your focus may change along the way as your understanding of your interests changes. That does not make the journey up until each point any less valid and should not be considered a waste of your time and energy.

Remember, it is not possible to force yourself to follow a passion that you do not truly feel passionate about. You may feel like you should be doing something specific in your life. This is more than likely because people have pressured you into believing this is true. Trying to please someone else instead of following your own path will inevitably end in a negative way. Instead of rushing down the wrong route, give yourself the time you need to grow and make an effort to nurture yourself along the way. The emotional rewards you will get for doing so will far exceed any short term happiness you experience from fulfilling someone else’s expectations of your life!

My online e-learning portal will soon have a new course dedicated to self-love, letting go and happiness which are all concepts that can help us to understand our passions! Head to the Flexi Foodie Academy soon to sign up and Like my Facebook page to be the first to know when it comes out!

How to Follow Your Path of Passion

Living the life you want is much easier said than done and there are several things, both external and internal, which can prevent you from doing so. Fear of the unknown is one of the biggest things that can hold you back when you are trying to follow your passion to find happiness. Even though it can be difficult, there are certain things that you can work towards and certain concepts that you can embrace to make this process much easier.

First of all, always try to listen to the feelings in your heart instead of the concerns in your mind. From the day you are born you are constricted by rules of what you are allowed to do and expectations of what you should be. It is essential to remember that these are put upon you by other people and are not necessarily the things you want for yourself. These rules and expectations can be applied to literally every aspect of your life, from how you should behave to how you should look and the milestones that you should achieve in life. There is no one right way to live your life and living it the way you want will inevitably bring you endless happiness.

Secondly, knowing what you want is the first step towards getting what you want. If you are not sure what your passion is yet then don’t stress about discovering it and following it. Through self-reflection and with the natural progression of time your path will become clear and you can then begin your journey towards it. It is not important to have your passion or passions set in stone and it is completely normal for your feelings to change along the way. This is not indecisiveness, it is the natural occurrence of growth and self-discovery.

Finally, know that fear is a feeling that we all have inside of us and it can surface at any time. The important thing is not to let this fear take over you and to find ways to bring peace and positivity back into your life. At the very essence, our negative emotions actually exist to help us. We fear things that might harm us and we are anxious of situations that may breed deeper negativity. When you accept that these feelings manifest as part of the greater struggle to become a happy person full of passion, then you can use them to your advantage on your journey through life.

Adopting these basic principles into your consciousness will help you to see the life-affirming lesson in every single experience. Even situations which you may consider too damaging to recover from will eventually just become distant memories. These memories may never go away completely but the negative feelings associated with them will, and you will then be better equipped emotionally to deal with similar situations in the future!

Life lived without following your passion is not the true life that you were put on this earth to live. You are entitled to your happiness and you must take it upon yourself to discover it!