Self-Care Sunday – Digital Detox

The latest topic in my Self-Care Sunday series is that of learning to digitally detox! This is something that is becoming increasingly necessary in the age of social media domination in which we live.

Studies have shown that the average digital device user can check theirs as many as 85 times a day. This can often add up to an unbelievable daily amount of five hours! Often we use our devices for short bursts of time, such as sending a message, making a phone call or searching for information. However, many people also often spend extended periods of time browsing the internet on their devices, playing online games, and engaging in other digital activities. Although this can sometimes seem relaxing, we are really increasing our dependence on our devices and paying less attention to our real life relationships, pursuits and responsibilities. 

There are many reasons why it may be super necessary for you to go on an extended digital  detox, but also it is something that you can do regularly for short periods of time. Leaving your devices alone for a whole day is a great way to disconnect and get your time back, but you can also try scheduling periods during the day where you go without them. This could be 30 minutes, an hour, two hours or maybe more…the point is that you are disconnecting from technology and focusing your time and attention on other things. 

In the following video I share a tried and tested method for encouraging yourself and those around you to detox regularly from digital devices. You can do the activity that I discuss at home when you are with your family, and also when you are out with friends or co-workers.

I have put together a downloadable PDF for you to look at alongside this video, and you can click here to enter your email address and receive this download!

Also, if you have seen my new wellness for women membership site – Truly Julie – then you will know that I am on a mission to inspire and motivate women to become healthier and happier – and I would love it if you would join me on this journey as we move towards the end of 2017!

Easy Ways to Stay Energised

If you are like me and have a consistently busy schedule and several things to juggle – work, family, friends etc – then you may find that your energy levels are often running low. This is totally normal when you have a lot going on, but there are ways that you can boost your energy levels to help you approach each day with endless positivity and enthusiasm! Continue reading Easy Ways to Stay Energised

How to Overcome Disappointment

Disappointment is something that some of us may experience more regularly, or feel more deeply than others, but it is true to say that it will of course feature in all of our lives at some point. Continue reading How to Overcome Disappointment

How to Deal with Negativity

There are countless reasons why negativity may feature regularly in your life. Perhaps you have some not-so positive relationships that you haven’t let go of yet, or perhaps you are still dealing with incidents in your past that have affected you in an ongoing way.

A lot of the negativity that we experience as people unfortunately largely comes from other people! Passing judgement is something we are all guilty of to some degree, but it is important to remember that you don’t always have to absorb this judgement when you are on the receiving end of it.

Choose Compassion

Making an extra effort be compassionate and kind in all that you do is a great way to tackle negativity. This is an idea that you should particularly embrace if you are experiencing negativity in a direct way, such as someone challenging you in an unnecessarily unpleasant manner. When you give nothing but positivity back to these people then you are much more likely to be able to disarm this negativity and resolve the situation.

Understand Intentions

It is an unfortunate fact that people who experience negativity from others often go on to spread this negativity around. Those who seek to cause emotional harm to others, or who do so unconsciously, will most likely have received this kind of treatment from one or more other people. This is why choosing not to engage in this behaviour and opting for positivity instead is a great idea. Doing so breaks the cycle of negativity that is being spread from one person to the next, and encourages love and happiness instead.

Overcoming Negativity

Whether the negativity in your life stems from you or come from others, the most important thing is to remember that you can choose to overcome it. You are in charge of your own happiness, and you must make the choice to create the life that you want for yourself.

Every time you find yourself in a situation that makes you unhappy in some way, then ask yourself how you would advise your best friend to deal with this situation. Would you encourage them to walk away? To try to confront the issue head on? Perhaps you would advise yourself to take some time to process your feelings properly before attempting to address the problem.

When it comes to self-love and self-care, you have to be your own best friend. And, treating yourself as such is a simple but effective way to overcome negativity!

If you have seen my new wellness for women membership site – Truly Julie – then you will know that I am on a mission to inspire and motivate women to become healthier and happier – and I would love it if you would join me on this journey as we keep moving through 2017!

Learning From Last Year

Learning from past mistakes is something that does not come easily to everyone. Falling into patterns of negative choices can be second nature to many, and it can take a great effort to break this routine of cyclic behaviour. 

If you feel like 2016 was not a good year for you in terms of the choices that you made and the decisions that you regret, then 2017 can be the perfect opportunity to turn this negativity into something productive. Instead of dwelling on the consequences of these choices, see them as lessons learnt and a basis for self-discovery moving forwards. 

Mistakes are an inevitable part of the human experience, and something that absolutely everyone makes. Sometimes it may seem that you make more poor choices than those around you, however, you have to remember that not everyone is open and honest about the things in their life that they regret.

There is also much to be learnt from the good things that happened to you in 2016. Maybe you discovered a new hobby, made new friends or embarked upon a new career. When you invite something new into your life it helps you to understand more about yourself. It might show you that you have a skill or a talent that you were previously unaware of, or that you are seeking certain things in life.

The people that we choose to spend our time with will help to mould us and guide us through our own lives. This is why it is important that you surround yourself with positive, encouraging people who will nurture you emotionally. Making new friends, or starting new romantic relationships, can teach us a great deal about the love and kindness that we deserve – as well as about the abundance of our own emotional energy that we are willing to share and invest in others. Try to process any negative interactions you had with people last year and to understand the reasons for them. You can then release these experiences from your mind and have no restrictions as to how open you are to new connections this year.

If you have seen my new wellness for women membership site – Truly Julie – then you will know that I am on a mission to inspire and motivate women to become healthier and happier – and I would love it if you would join me on this journey as we enter 2017!

A New Start for the New Year

As we approach 2017 you may be feeling nostalgic for all of the wonderful things that have happened in your life this year. You may also be keen for the year to draw to a close if it has been a difficult or challenging time for you.

The great thing about the New Year is that it is an opportunity to look at your life with fresh eyes and re-evaluate what is important to you. The New Year is a chance for change and a chance to truly forgive yourself for any mistakes made in the year that has just passed.

If you want to start 2017 on the right path to a year full of health, happiness and positivity then it is important to set intentions for the next 12 months. What is it you want to achieve and how are you going to support yourself to reach these goals?

Your aims for this upcoming year may be tangible things that can be worked towards, such as moving house or completing an educational course. Your aims may also be more personal to you and involve your relationship with yourself and those around you.

Whatever your aims are for 2017 it helps to clarify them out loud to yourself as you contemplate the best route to your goals.

It is always beneficial to have the support of those around you and sharing your goals and ambitions with your friends and family is a great idea. In doing so, you can also find out what their hopes are for the year ahead and offer them your support in accomplishing these things.

The key to successful change is to not take too much on at once and to consider your goals one at a time. Trying to do everything at once will inevitably leave you feeling overwhelmed, and then discourage you from wanting to continue with your positive change. There is no need to prioritise your intentions in order of importance as you will find you are more inclined to work towards certain things first. Take your own guidance and allow things to progress naturally.

There is no limit to what you can achieve for yourself in the next year with the right support and determination!

If you have seen my new wellness for women membership site – Truly Julie – then you will know that I am on a mission to inspire and motivate women to become healthier and happier – and I would love it if you would join me on this journey as we enter 2017!

Simple Steps to Supporting Happiness

I regularly talk on my blog about finding ways to work towards happiness and to sustain it once you have arrived at this beautiful destination. As well as meditation, exercise and all of the other wonderful techniques that I recommend, there are also much simpler things that you can do to promote your own sense of well-being.

The following suggestions are practically effortless concepts that you can make a note to embrace in all aspects of your life! In doing so, not only will you soon see the positivity in those around you, but you will also boost feelings of self-love, self-worth and happiness in yourself.

Reach Out

Knowing when to ask for help is one of the best ways to avoid letting stress take over as you can more easily share your concerns. People often shy away from asking for help as they see it as a sign of weakness in themselves. However, the truth is that we all need help sometimes, be it for small tasks or larger responsibilities. When you go to your friends or family for help you are actually also telling them that you trust them and that you value their input! This helps to firm the bonds of friendship and encourage honest communication. 

Own Your Independence

Being happy without a partner is where some people struggle. However, it is essential to remember that you do not need another person to be complete. If you are unhappy on your own then the presence of another person is only going to mask this unhappiness, not remedy it. For this reason (and more!) it is important to work on your own happiness as an individual before becoming part of a pair.

Seek Out Positivity

Seeing the good in other people can often be difficult, especially if the person in question has wronged you in some way. In some circumstances it can be easy to write certain people off as not having any good in them at all, but this is almost always never true! So, in instances where you are having negative feelings towards someone, make a mental note of their good qualities or fond memories you have of them. This will help you to process the situation with less sadness and hostility, giving you much more of a chance to preserve your own happiness.

These three simple concepts are often overlooked when people are contemplating their own happiness. Making an effort to reach out, own your independence and to seek out positivity in those around you will go a long way to improving your happiness.

If you have seen my new wellness for women membership site – Truly Julie – then you will know that I am on a mission to inspire and motivate women to become healthier and happier – and self-care is a HUGE part of this!

From December 3rd you can join us on a FREE 21 Day Happiness Challenge! This will take just ten minutes of your time each day and will help you to find the happiness you are seeking. Click here to register and get started!

How to Cope with Loneliness

Loneliness is a common human emotion that can strike even when you are surrounded by friends and family. This feeling can quickly become a serious barrier to self-love and can demotivate you from caring for yourself in the way that you know you should.

The emotion of loneliness is characterised by an empty feeling, or a longing to connect with another person when this seems presently unobtainable. This can leave you feeling depressed, lost and even quite anxious if you feel like the state of loneliness isn’t going to pass.

When you feel like this it is important to remember that your self-care should not be compromised, and that you can actually nurture yourself through this period of loneliness.

Although loneliness can often be caused by a lack of human interaction, it can also be something that is born within you. If you have lost your connection with yourself, or if you have begun to lose sight of your goals and your ambitions, then it can become easy to slip into a place of loneliness.

In these moments, one of the most important things that you can do for yourself is to make an extra effort to love yourself. On my new wellness for women website – Truly Julie – we talk a lot about self-love and the different ways that you can effortlessly make self-love practices a regular part of your routine. For example, in just a short period of time spent meditating, practicing yoga, repeating positive affirmations to yourself or simply checking in with your own emotions, you can help to re-route negative thought processes to positive ones.

When you don’t make a consistent effort to understand your emotions and deal with any negativity that is arising, then you run the risk of letting this negativity take over. This is often because the voice of your inner critic starts to sound out any positivity – leaving you feel as though you are not good enough.

As well as working to care for yourself when feelings of loneliness start to take hold, it is also incredibly helpful to reach out to others for support. This doesn’t have to be as drastic as telling everyone that you are struggling and asking for help. It can simply be making a phone call to a friend and making plans for the near future. Alternatively, you could arrange to take yourself to a new activity class, or some other group session, with the intention of making new connections with people you haven’t met yet!

However you choose to cope with your loneliness, the key is to make sure that you are doing something pro-active to deal with it! Leaving these feelings to slowly simmer and grow will always ensure that they just get stronger and harder to deal with further down the line.

You can head to the Truly Julie website now to get the support and advice you need to keep your health, happiness and positivity on track!