Overcoming Obstacles to Happiness

Having high and often unrealistic expectations of yourself is a common human experience, and is something that can be difficult to overcome. Placing this level of expectation upon yourself is especially easily done when you are seeking genuine happiness and positivity. Continue reading Overcoming Obstacles to Happiness

How to Rebuild Your Confidence

There are many reasons why your confidence and your self-esteem may have been negatively affected. It may have been the result of several small incidents, or perhaps even one ongoing situation. Regardless of the reason for your low confidence, the effects that it can have on your life can be difficult to overcome.

When you don’t believe in yourself or in your abilities, it can be tricky to motivate and encourage yourself to do the things that you truly want to do. It can seem impossible to actually give yourself the push you need to work towards your goals and ambitions.

So, how can you overcome this issue with your confidence and self esteem in order to lead a more fulfilling and ambitious life?

Taking care of your own needs is the first step, and in doing this you will be moving self-care to the top of your list of priorities! Self-care can take many forms, and essentially means you are recognising your own needs and taking productive and active steps to meet these needs.

I would encourage you to make a physical list of the things that make you happy, such as exercise, socialising, travelling, listening to music etc, and then ask yourself how often you actually do these things. I would then ask you to commit to finding the time to do these things often, and you can then notice how your perception of yourself changes and your confidence grows.

Next, try to establish what your negative views of yourself are – by this I mean the reasons for your low confidence levels. Do you perhaps think that you are not doing great at your job? Or, do you believe you aren’t taking care of your family well enough? Perhaps you don’t like the way that you look and would like to change your appearance in some way?

All of these negative views about yourself will have their roots in fear – a fear of change, a fear of failure, a fear of being judged. Whatever your fears are, it is important to recognise that these fears come from within you, and therefore you have the power to silence these thoughts and to kick them out of your mind!

Combatting negativity with positivity is key to a happy life, full of confidence. And, we all have the potential to enhance the positivity within us so that less and less space exists to allow the negativity in!

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How to Not Hold Yourself Back

It’s a sad fact that sometimes we are the ones who hold ourselves back in life! It is often incredibly difficult, verging on impossible, to let go of the fears that we have in order to manifest the life that we want for ourselves.

Needing additional guidance from someone, or requiring that extra little push of encouragement in order to do something, is completely normal. However, this kind of validation isn’t always available from those around us. When this is the case, and also regardless of whether it is or not, it’s possible and powerful to become your own motivation!

We often rob ourselves of what could be defining moments in our lives because of a simple fear of the unknown, or a lack of motivation to truly explore the possibilities that are opening up to us. When this happens, regret can quickly set in, and this is a much longer lasting feeling than any negative feelings that may occur as a result of a perceived failure.

So how can you champion yourself and always have a well of personal inspiration to drink from?

First it’s important to remember that any self-doubt that you are experiencing is likely not entirely of your own creation. The lessons that are an inevitable part of life can often instil an attitude of limiting beliefs about the self. That is, of believing that your capabilities have limits, and that it is silly to attempt to break through these barriers. When you spend some time getting to the root of this self-doubt, then you can begin to understand it as an emotion that has no right in your life or in your mind – and work to expel it for good!

Secondly, you must strive to reject the concept of self-sabotage. Nobody loses out when you let fear hold you back – except yourself! Treating yourself with consistent love, respect and kindness is a great way to reiterate to yourself that you want to succeed in all that you do, and that self-sabotage is certainly not something that you want to engage in.

Thirdly, you must acknowledge that there is much to be gained by making brave choices and taking control of your own life. Holding yourself back, whether intentionally or not, will inevitably allow larger problems to develop in your life, and you could quickly grow resentful of yourself – which is a complicated emotional place to be in!

Let go of your fear, embrace all that is good about your life and be your own champion!

If you have seen my new wellness for women membership site – Truly Julie – then you will know that I am on a mission to inspire and motivate women to become healthier and happier – and I would love it if you would join me on this journey as we keep moving through 2017!

How to Deal with Stress

Stress is often an unavoidable part of life. It is something that strikes during particularly trying times and helps us to recognise that something is difficult. Although the existence of stress is something that we can’t deny or avoid, there are ways that we can productively deal with stress to ensure that the impact it has on our lives is minimal.

Although stress is most likely something that you would rather live without, it is one of several negative emotions that give contrast to the positivity in our lives. Negative feelings, such as stress and fear, help us to understand how we feel about things, and they often also serve as warnings that we are not entirely comfortable with a situation or happy with ourselves.

Although I often advocate ways to deal with negative emotions and feelings, I would never advise someone to repress them entirely. This is because I believe it is important to embrace this side of yourself.

Stress can manifest in several different ways that can be quite individual to a person. You may find that for you it starts with a mild feeling of anxiety about a certain situation or person. This can then quickly develop into a larger concern that leaves you feeling depressed and reluctant to deal with the situation in question. The additional consequences of this could be that your sleep pattern is affected, your appetite changes and that your mood is prone to inconsistency as irritability sets in.

It can be difficult to manage stress because often it is connected to a potential future concern that you currently have no control over. It can also often just generally be connected to things outside of your control, and therefore there is little that you can do to mitigate this stress. If this is the case then the most effective thing that you can do is check in with yourself in regards to your feelings, and then try as best as you can to restore calm and a more usual frame of mind.

So, when you begin to feel stress take over, ask yourself the following questions:

“What is the absolute worst outcome of this situation?”

“Is there anything I can do in this moment to lessen the severity of the situation?”

“Why has this situation left me feeling like this?”

Once you know the answers to these questions, then you can begin to find a remedy to your predicament and alleviate the stress you are feeling. Often a fear of confrontation will prevent us from addressing our problems head on, leading us to unintentionally exaggerate the seriousness of an issue. When this is the case, simply being upfront and talking things out can bring some relief or allow a solution to present itself.

Some time spent in deep meditation is a great way to truly understand your feelings about your stress, and can also guide you towards resolution.

On my wellness for women website – Truly Julie – I share resources, advice and support that can help you deal with stress head on, as well as helping you to mentally prepare yourself for other sources of negativity!

How To Live The Life You Dream Of

Fear is such a natural part of life that some people give up entirely on trying to overcome this connection to certain things. You may experience fear in many forms, but most commonly in the form of a phobia or a negative emotional connection to something or someone. If this sounds applicable to your life then it is important to remember that we all have the strength within ourselves to combat this issue.

The more you feed your fears by avoiding the things you are scared of, the more you allow your fears to grow and manifest in different ways. This can quickly become extremely detrimental to your life on the whole. By changing your perception of this emotion you work to turn it around and eradicate it from your thoughts. Can you imagine how amazing your life would be if you had no fear? If you weren’t afraid to go after the things you want and live your life in an authentic and open way?

The following simple steps are intended to help you understand your fears and begin the process of overcoming them.

First of all, you need to be aware of what your fears are and where they come from. Writing a list of all the negative emotions and thoughts that you have throughout the day will help you to gain a clearer perspective on this. If a thought is not a loving and positive one, then it is coming from a place of fear. Once you have created this list, try and connect reasons and past experiences to the things on your list.

Once you know where you fears have come from you can come up with a relevant positive affirmation for every item on your list. For example, if you fear affection and intimacy because you have had a previous traumatic experience, then the positive affirmation, “I am a confident person and I am worthy of love and companionship”, can help you to overcome this. Repeat it to yourself out loud or in your head every day and also in moments where you have a negative thought about this fear. Positive affirmations help you to change the way you think and this in turn changes the way you interpret your fears.

Spending some time analysing your fears in order to rationalise them will help to take the power out of them. This is also true of talking about them with someone else. Often when we say things out loud they seem less serious than they do in our minds. When we keep something bottled up inside we tend to dwell on it and it can quickly appear to be much more serious than it really is. Spending some time contemplating these fears and talking them through with a friend or a therapist can be incredibly beneficial.

Using positive affirmations to overcome negativity and fear is something I discuss extensively in my book Eat Real Food. Click now to order this book on Amazon in the UK or in the US!

How to Follow Your Path of Passion

Living the life you want is much easier said than done and there are several things, both external and internal, which can prevent you from doing so. Fear of the unknown is one of the biggest things that can hold you back when you are trying to follow your passion to find happiness. Even though it can be difficult, there are certain things that you can work towards and certain concepts that you can embrace to make this process much easier.

First of all, always try to listen to the feelings in your heart instead of the concerns in your mind. From the day you are born you are constricted by rules of what you are allowed to do and expectations of what you should be. It is essential to remember that these are put upon you by other people and are not necessarily the things you want for yourself. These rules and expectations can be applied to literally every aspect of your life, from how you should behave to how you should look and the milestones that you should achieve in life. There is no one right way to live your life and living it the way you want will inevitably bring you endless happiness.

Secondly, knowing what you want is the first step towards getting what you want. If you are not sure what your passion is yet then don’t stress about discovering it and following it. Through self-reflection and with the natural progression of time your path will become clear and you can then begin your journey towards it. It is not important to have your passion or passions set in stone and it is completely normal for your feelings to change along the way. This is not indecisiveness, it is the natural occurrence of growth and self-discovery.

Finally, know that fear is a feeling that we all have inside of us and it can surface at any time. The important thing is not to let this fear take over you and to find ways to bring peace and positivity back into your life. At the very essence, our negative emotions actually exist to help us. We fear things that might harm us and we are anxious of situations that may breed deeper negativity. When you accept that these feelings manifest as part of the greater struggle to become a happy person full of passion, then you can use them to your advantage on your journey through life.

Adopting these basic principles into your consciousness will help you to see the life-affirming lesson in every single experience. Even situations which you may consider too damaging to recover from will eventually just become distant memories. These memories may never go away completely but the negative feelings associated with them will, and you will then be better equipped emotionally to deal with similar situations in the future!

Life lived without following your passion is not the true life that you were put on this earth to live. You are entitled to your happiness and you must take it upon yourself to discover it!

A Note to Highly Sensitive People….

Being told that we are too sensitive is something that many of us experience regularly! Being in touch with our emotions has become something that we are told we should apologise for, but in reality it is something that keeps us in tune with our lives. In the face of this kind of criticism it can be difficult to love yourself and appreciate how this part of your personality is actually beneficial to you and those around you! If there is one thing this world needs then it is definitely more sensitive people!

Being sensitive is one of the most fundamental things about being human, but as we have evolved many of us have lost touch with this part of ourselves. This is why those of us who have retained our sensitive nature often feel the need to apologise for our responses to certain situations. Although it is natural that this would make you want to change your behaviour, it is important to remember that it is the world that needs to adjust and you are in no way at fault.

As a highly sensitive person you are more than likely going to meet many people on your journey through life who will criticise you for being weak. Although it is often futile to try and debate the issue with these people, you have to remember for yourself that it takes strength to feel the pain in situations that other people turn a blind eye to. Far from being full of fear, you are full of the kind of courage that it takes to express yourself when it seems like the world wants you to shy away from your feelings.

In order to create a better world for yourself and those around you, it is essential that you retain your sensitivity; it is your awareness of your life and your environment. The way that you see the world and the way you navigate your time within it is dependant on your sensory perception. As a highly sensitive person you will feel things that others don’t and this is something that you should always see as a blessing! You might also find that you have certain qualities that seem to contradict each other, such as being a strong leader but also someone who becomes vulnerable quite easily.

As a highly sensitive person the chances are that you follow a healthier lifestyle than most. A tendency towards a plant-based diet is common – likely due to the suffering inflicted by the factory farming industry as well as a natural negative reaction towards toxic substances, like sugar and additives.

Regardless of how being a highly sensitive person sets you apart from your friends and family, you must always remember that it makes you the kind, caring person that you are!

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