Adjust Your Attitude to Find Happiness

When it comes to seeking happiness it is important not to negate any of your emotional responses. Often we tell ourselves that feeling sad is not an acceptable state of mind because so many people have it worse. However, in doing so we are discounting our natural response to our current situation. It is important to remember that we have to sometimes be sad if we are to be happy in other moments! Understanding your emotions and allowing yourself to feel them is essential to working past any negative ones that occur and embracing the positive ones that surface.

Many people try to find happiness in making others happy. Although this is of course a great thing to do, it can often be to distract the person in question from dealing with their own emotions. If you are one of these people that spends a great deal of time worrying about everyone else, then you may start to find that you are missing out on your own joy. Although there are of course things you can do to increase the wellbeing of others, at the end of the day their happiness is their own making. You simply cannot force someone else to be happy and you cannot truly push them to reach this state of mind before they are ready. Similarly, you are responsible for your own happiness, even though you may get help from your loved ones along the way.

If you believe that there are currently obstacles to you reaching your happiest self, then ask yourself the following questions and try to determine if your attitude could use an adjustment!

First of all, are there things in your life that are causing you pain that you could work to let go of? Are there negative thought patterns that drive you to distraction when really you could embrace positivity and work to avoid them altogether? Are there people that you allow to influence your attitude in a detrimental way?

Instead of concentrating on the negative aspects of your life, make a list of all of the things that you are doing well and remind yourself of these things each and every day. By taking pride in the small moments of success that you achieve, you create a much bigger feeling of success that can boost your sense of happiness and general wellbeing.

Make sure you own each and every decision and choice that guides your life so that you never lose that feeling of being in control. Finally, and perhaps most importantly, remember to be kind to yourself. Take the time to care for yourself and not to let others get you down! Check in on your attitude to life and happiness regularly to ensure you remain on a positive and healthy track!

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31 Comments Add yours

  1. Your post was exactly what I needed today. Thank you!

  2. lulu says:

    How right you are about the importance of state of mind. It seems we are whatever we will ourselves to be.

  3. AHHH, you are speaking my language! I loved this!

  4. Reblogged this on busybeinglisenba and commented:
    I loved this so much, and I think everyone could use this read!

  5. Jay Holmes says:

    Reblogged this on hamlord queries and commented:
    Falls back on the adage of mental fitness. Exercise your mind like your body.

  6. Very interesting read, thank you!

  7. helene520 says:

    Reblogged this on scholarlyjournalstation and commented:
    Adjust Your Attitude to Find Happiness

  8. Debra Simpson says:

    Reblogged this on Be Mindful Of Self.

  9. rdeysher says:

    Reblogged this on Pursuing Balance and Health and commented:
    This hit home for me. It is what I do!

  10. ashamacha says:

    Wow! This post really gave me insight on our thoughts change our outlook. I am definitely going to start making the most out of everything.

  11. clafitness94 says:

    Positive attitude (:

  12. RiMiVi says:

    Thank you for this post! It really can help! I ask your permission to reblog and translate it in Italian: I think it can be very helpful for so many people! 🙂

    1. juliemontagu says:

      Yes that would be fantastic!

      1. RiMiVi says:

        Thank you!! I’ll start right away!

      2. RiMiVi says:

        Did it!
        https://ricreolamiavita.wordpress.com/2015/07/14/atteggiamento-e-felicita/
        Thank you so much for this opportunity! 🙂

  13. I will follow all the things in your post loved it..

  14. celinatalk says:

    Love this post!! I realized that twitter had caused me to overall increase my negativity so I just don’t visit my account everyday. I feel waaay more positive and upbeat 🙂

  15. Great post! Inspirational.

  16. Great post, and right on time! Thank you!

  17. beautygalz says:

    hey! Thank you so much for these motivational words! loved it so much! 🙂

    Love
    *Cinderella*

  18. Perle Bleue says:

    I completely agree with you. I feel like it’s easy to get lost when we try to make everyone happy, and it’s easy to forget ourselves..
    My way of seeing life is : any “bad” thing that happens to me is just to make me recognize the good ones 🙂

  19. Love your blog. Your posts are inspirational. The positive vibes flow from your page. Congrats on creating such a wonderful pit stop for the soul.

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